Musing; Time to Live
She had gone through a wide range of emotions. She had gone through diverse phases of pain. She had given up on her dreams and then found them again. She had lost herself and then got reintroduced to her. Like one in therapy, she was learning to love herself again. She was learning to look at herself in the mirror and see the beautiful lady smiling back at her. She was a woman, yes! She could say that. She was not a girl, she had grown. Life had matured her. Now, she saw life as a spectrum, it was no longer in monochrome. She was ready to live. It really was time to live.
She didn't regret the time she seemed to have lost. It was all part of her training and her preparation. Every student graduated from school at a point or the other. This was her own point. She had gone through the school of life, and had learnt that it was not about what she went through, as much as it was about her response. She had learnt not to be reactive, but responsive to issues of life as they crept up. She didn't blame him for what she had endured because of what he did or did not do, she didn't see him as a culprit to be stoned. She thanked him. Yes, she thanked him. In recent times, her life had been full of so much love, so much laughter, so much impact. She had learnt, she was learning and she was doing what she really knew she should be doing. She was glad.
The series on She, He and Guy, if you've been following, is a true-life story. It's the story of a brilliant, beautiful, intelligent young woman, who is a survivor of spousal abuse/violence. On a daily basis, women are dying , men are being maimed and in some cases, killed, children are losing one or both parents, parents are losing children. The menace calls for action, from one and all. The young woman in the series has been able to turn her pain around, she has healed, is healing and is devoting her life to be a voice for the gagged and voiceless.
Common and popular belief states that a woman who is in an abusive relationship did something to warrant it. She must have provoked the man, she must have been a bad woman, she must have . . . the list goes on. But, the young woman in this narrative did nothing wrong. Her abuser was not able to rightly accuse her of any misdemeanor. He has his reasons. Whatever they are, they are not ground for him to subject another human being to such torture. Work out your relationship problems, and if you find you can't do it alone, reach out for appropriate help.
Enough of losing sisters, daughters, mothers, cousins, aunts, enough of depressing stories in the news. What happened to the love professed at the beginning? What did you see in your partner? What made you commit for a lifetime? Reach deep into you and call out that or those things. Remember to genuinely love the one you're with. They're here today, they may not be tomorrow. Will you be able to live with yourself, for the rest of your life, knowing you treated them badly? Love the one you've chosen, life is too short not to.
She didn't regret the time she seemed to have lost. It was all part of her training and her preparation. Every student graduated from school at a point or the other. This was her own point. She had gone through the school of life, and had learnt that it was not about what she went through, as much as it was about her response. She had learnt not to be reactive, but responsive to issues of life as they crept up. She didn't blame him for what she had endured because of what he did or did not do, she didn't see him as a culprit to be stoned. She thanked him. Yes, she thanked him. In recent times, her life had been full of so much love, so much laughter, so much impact. She had learnt, she was learning and she was doing what she really knew she should be doing. She was glad.
The series on She, He and Guy, if you've been following, is a true-life story. It's the story of a brilliant, beautiful, intelligent young woman, who is a survivor of spousal abuse/violence. On a daily basis, women are dying , men are being maimed and in some cases, killed, children are losing one or both parents, parents are losing children. The menace calls for action, from one and all. The young woman in the series has been able to turn her pain around, she has healed, is healing and is devoting her life to be a voice for the gagged and voiceless.
Common and popular belief states that a woman who is in an abusive relationship did something to warrant it. She must have provoked the man, she must have been a bad woman, she must have . . . the list goes on. But, the young woman in this narrative did nothing wrong. Her abuser was not able to rightly accuse her of any misdemeanor. He has his reasons. Whatever they are, they are not ground for him to subject another human being to such torture. Work out your relationship problems, and if you find you can't do it alone, reach out for appropriate help.
Enough of losing sisters, daughters, mothers, cousins, aunts, enough of depressing stories in the news. What happened to the love professed at the beginning? What did you see in your partner? What made you commit for a lifetime? Reach deep into you and call out that or those things. Remember to genuinely love the one you're with. They're here today, they may not be tomorrow. Will you be able to live with yourself, for the rest of your life, knowing you treated them badly? Love the one you've chosen, life is too short not to.
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